Making of a Housewife: Chapter 2 - Problems Between Couple

Two months passed since my wife Aruna started her work. She now works as a team leader and she got adjusted to the new company, her team, and her bosses. Since her customer is in the UK, her work time is from 12 PM to 9 PM. She even works over the weekend or at home, if there any issues. It’s common in IT and I didn’t see any issues. Aruna is a dedicated worker and she enjoys her job.

On the other hand, my life started boring as my daily routine is eating, sleeping, and watching TV. I applied for different jobs and waited for interview calls. Since I don’t have any new or demanding skills in my resume, I didn’t get many calls, and over time I didn’t get any response.

I thought of an idea to start my own start-up software company. I explained my idea to my wife and she suggested talking to my friends and get some funds to start, as we don’t have enough money to invest. I tried speaking to my best friends, but I couldn’t get their buy-in or most of them didn’t respond.

Slowly all these issues started to hit our love life. Earlier we did love at least weekly thrice but recently there is a big gap between us. Apart from the office work, she had to do all the house works like cooking, shopping, dishwashing, etc.

Aruna used to manage all these since I was busy searching for jobs and planning for a new start-up. Because of all these works, she becomes very tired and she falls asleep quickly in the night and even when I try to start some romance, she started avoiding me.

Even though Aruna tried to manage, her frustration started slowly and she sometimes shows her anger in her work or while speaking to me. Now that I have become freer her frustration started to creep.

I have always felt household works are only for girls and my mom never allowed me to do any house works or never allowed me to cook. With the same attitude, I convinced my wife to be a housewife after our marriage.

One day my wife had a big argument and fight with me on helping her in the kitchen. She started showing all her anger to me and I had no way to defend my laziness.